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Thank you all for everything

Howdy folks. I can’t tell you how important you all have been through all this. The support and love has been amazing.

First I wish to thank Adam for starting this blog to keep everyone posted on Jim’s condition so he could point to the blog when folks wanted to know how Jim was doing before he passed away.

I have read over everyone’s comments and I thank you all for that. Until today, I was unable to even read much on this blog because I lived through these days and provided the information that Adam posted here and it was still so painful I found it hard to even post or read the postings here after Jim passed away. As it is, I am crying while reading it all today.

I thank you all for those comments of support during this time.

I also wish to thank you all for your support in the Funeral Fund. Between what was given here and sent through three other sources, the total donated for the Funeral Fund took care of the creation and the memorial service and I can’t thank you all enough. There were a few additional expenses but those too were covered by a second set of donations to the Funeral Fund.

Your support for Jim and for me has been nothing short of amazing and I can’t tell you how much it means to me to know that we could have a very nice Memorial Service and we were able to stream the service as well as save it to on our channel, so folks can view it later. I am hoping to be able to save the two files for the future, but not sure how to do that yet. Please contact me if you have any ideas about that. Currently without paying the videos will be on for 30 days. To extend that storage, costs $19.99/mo. to keep the videos safe so they will not be deleted after 30 days.

We will keep this blog up for posterity and it is linked to from Jim’s Memorial Website on his vanity domain, where you will find more information on the memorial service, posts of stories from Jim’s life that he told me over the years, emails from folks that allowed them to be posted to share their love of JimmyLee, photo album, and a new photo album from the memorial will be added as soon as I get the pictures from my sister that she took with her SLR camera which maybe after I go to Mount Airy, NC/Cana, VA to spend a few weeks over Christmas with my family as my Mother is also very ill and she has been in and out of the hospital. This also gets me surrounded by my very supportive family to help me over my first Christmas in 28 years without the love of my life.

I thank God for family and friends during this time. You all have been wonderful. Dealing with this loss has been the worst thing I have ever dealt with. I thought that losing my Daddy in 2005 was the worst, and it was terrible, but even that pales by comparison to losing your soul mate.

I have also posted this over on Jim’s Memorial website.

Please feel free to read over all the stories and more there.


Funeral Fund

Adam, thank you so much for coordinating all this. I don’t know what I would have done without you

I don’t know what I would have done without all our friends and family, online and off.

We have taken down the link to the Funeral Fund now that the Memorial has taken place on the 18th.

Thank you all for your help to get all the arrangements paid for. I have no words to express my thanks so I will simply say, THANK YOU ALL!

If you would like to help with the expenses of JimmyLee’s funeral, please click here. Thanks!


We are losing him


We are losing him … Hours or days; not weeks according to Dr who just came in


They have done a last ditch effort to see if he can wake up from this self induced chemical (ammonia) coma.
It is only a possibility. He can’t take the lactulose orally so they gave it to him in an enema and put in a tube to pull it off so he will stay clean while he is in the coma.
No guarantees, not probable but a remote possibility that it could bring him out and be lucid but no way to know how long, if at all.

December 3


The DETOX time has kicked in; sweats, respirations up – been that way most of the night.

Started yesterday, but the lowered Ativan in half which was suppressing respiration.

Jim’s stats have been running high:
Pulse between 105 – 114 +/- currently 105.

Temp 98-98.6 (normal but with sweats).

Respirations 16 – 35 mostly upper 20s – 35 overnight

Blood pressure in good shape; at the moment 124/57 has gone as low as 98 for systolic but averaging 104/53 to 124/79 throughout the night

They had to put an oxygen mask on him at 6 liters since 6 liters without it still had him down to 88 at 6am. With the mask, he is back up to 95.

And this is with the Ativan (1/2 dose of what they were giving him last evening, and lithium alternating.


Oh man … His ammonia levels are double two days ago, it is over 300!

Result of liver failure… It is not filtering as it should and it is building quickly

It was over the top two days ago at half its current level

The dr will be in when he makes his rounds to let me know what the options are. Apparently there is something they can give to lower the level but it is an oral medication and he is nearly comatose

December 2


No change this morning. They have him heavily medicated.

My brother had me come for breakfast this morning (he cooked). Got 4 hrs sleep … As a matter if fact, I slept so hard the nurse was surprised I didn’t wake up with all the people in and out throughout those 4 hrs


Jim was much more aware when he was awake. He started sweats this morning. But the librium and ativan are working very well. Seems as far as detox goes dr is very pleased how lucid he is today in the middle of that. He could have been mean, hallucinating, etc. but he is doing quite well so far.

I think that is a direct answer to prayer … So many praying and sending powerful positive thoughts too

So thankful to god, and the powerful thoughts and prayers by everyone


Tomorrow they said they will likely move him to another floor and out of ICU 😉

JimmyLee’s nurse said sodium, potassium levels are looking good.

They are giving him ‘Vitamin K’ to help with clotting. They flip him from one side to the other every two hours and the have leg massagers alternating to keep blood clots from forming in his legs.

He is still heavily sedated and hasn’t been awake since he asked me to go home and get his laptop. He does sound like he is beginning to come up a little (lighter sleep) after they turned him. They are now coming in every two hours like a normal floor patient which is good news.

His liver still not functioning right of course.

They are playing a balancing act with meds. Right now they are adding a protein enzyme Albumin to try to force his system to pull the fluid from his limbs back to the blood vessels to deal with the protein enzyme, along with some Lasix to complement that in pulling fluid out of everywhere it doesn’t belong. So far limbs still quite swollen with fluids.

He is also still getting his banana bag made up every day to get vitamins, electrolytes, and other nutrients.

About all to report at the moment.

December 1


Since the liver Dr came in late last night and said things were not as dire as it at first appeared it really sounds like an answer to prayer to me.

If all goes well this first night, and the can get him into a detox program here in Williamsburg and he can be off alcohol for 60 days, MCV will put him on a list for liver transplant. But he has to maintain free to alcohol to remain on the list.

I am hoping and praying that he can do that.

They took more blood (sure he is starting to feel like Chekhov on Star Trek).

His body, particularly his arms and legs, are blown up with fluid that should be in his blood vessels. They will likely be starting to address that that today.

They have started the detox medications of course; librium every 8 hrs and ativan between to mitigate the symptoms of withdrawal.

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.


He is being kept on lithium and ativan to get through this time while they are detoxing his system to help his liver function better hopefully

Last night they were giving some light at the end of this very dark tunnel and the nurse today is so negative.

I will wait to talk with the doctor before allowing the negativity to get to me.


OK, Dr Kaiser came in. Basically Jim’s liver has failed – they are trying to work on the various areas like clotting, bilirubin counts, ammonia counts, etc. all hi liver enzymes are off the charts.

The are going to install a pic line because the are having trouble getting an IV and keeping it open for very long.

They are trying to keep him comfortable at the same time they try to get these counts within reasonable amounts as well as get the massive fluid retention down as well.

Liver transplant is possible but reasonably few livers are available and many young people needing one would take precedence over an older person who might potentially turn around like Mickey Mantle and go back to drinking (Dr’s words).

He will be in ICU for likely 2-3 more days at this point, it is hour by hour as to what they will do based on his responses to treatment.

Not sure there is a way forward; just a way to mitigate what is if he responds to treatment and they can get him past detox safely


He is awake and somewhat lucid but not completely